Something I’ve learned during my humble beginnings into motherhood, is that if you say the words “I will never [insert blank] with my child”, you will definitely do that thing. One dumb example is- I used to say I would never be one of those moms who takes pictures of her baby covered in food, in fact I wouldn’t even let mine get that messy while eating. Flash forward a few months and well…
Yep. There’s plenty more where that came from. Ohh the things we say while young and free of a life dictated by poop and naps. And here’s the rest.
1. I do delayed vaccinations
This isn’t really a fail, but I get flack on both sides for this one. On one hand I’m “poisoning my baby”, on the other hand I’m putting him and everyone else at risk because I want to wait until he’s a little bit older. The conclusion I’ve come to with this one is, there’s no perfect answer. As momma’s we all want to do what’s best for our babies, and unfortunately with vaccines you’re really forced to choose between the lesser of two evils. Of course you don’t want your child to get a dangerous and potentially fatal disease, especially if it’s preventable. However, it’s no secret that they are full of chemicals and preservatives that have potentially harmful side effects. The reason we decided to go with spacing them out and opting out of some altogether is because I had to choose risk verses reward. To me preventing whooping cough, for example, is worth the risk. But preventing chicken pox is not. I don’t judge other momma’s on either side, I know all you want is to do what’s right for your babies just like I do.
2. I supplemented with formulafor the sake of sleep
It’s true. I was an exclusively breastfeeding momma for the first 6 months. But after his 6 month check up he was in low percentiles and the doctor mentioned it could possibly be my supply, so I decided to start supplementing. What I learned is that there was nothing wrong with my supply, however, he did sleep better the nights that I fed him formula. So I kept doing it, but just at night. Honestly the only reason I stopped was because he went through a bad bout of constipation and I think the dairy in the formula caused it. (I have been mostly dairy free while breastfeeding.) But had it not been for that, you better believe I’d still be pumping that boy up before bed time in hopes of getting a couple more hours of sleep.
3. Speaking of sleep, I tried sleep training… and it worked!
Or it helped at least. You guys, I have been getting inadequate sleep for over a year. I had crazy insomnia while pregnant, and now an almost 8 month old who was still waking up several times at night. As well as would only nap during the day if we were in the car. Something had to give. I was getting no sleep, and nothing done around the house. I know how controversial this topic is, and for a long time I was one of those momma’s who refused to do it. But I ultimately decided that I would be a better mom if I was getting adequate sleep. By night three I’d gone from getting up and nursing him back to sleep up to four times a night, to just once or twice! I love my baby more than life, and losing those night time feedings was bitter sweet, but ya girl needs her sleep.
4. Screen time
It’s survival, guys. I resisted giving him screen time for so long but the older he gets, the shorter his attention span. When I’m getting ready in the morning I used to set him down with some toys and that would occupy him. Now.. not so much. Not to mention he’s crawling. So yes, occasionally if I need to do some work around the house, or take a shower, or if he’s just in a bad mood and I need him to hang for a little longer, I will set him in his jumper and turn on baby songs for him to watch. And I try not to beat myself up about it. I also read to him every day, and have since he was a week old, so I don’t feel like I’m totally polluting his brain with a half hour of cartoons a day.
5. I call the advise nurse for EVERYTHING.
This is a true first time momma fail. I just couldn’t believe that the hospital would send ME home to be responsible for this precious human life at less than 48 hours old. Most people can’t wait to leave the hospital after giving birth, but not this momma. How do you bathe him while keeping the umbilical cord dry? What if he makes a weird sound at night?? You’re talking to the girl who insisted an ultrasound be done on her 3 week olds tummy because he was spitting up. Turns out he just has dairy sensitivity and I’d had a milkshake the night before. Needless to say, I’m surprised they haven’t blocked my number. I’ve called for every thing you could possibly imagine and still do. What can I say? You can’t be too careful. 😂🤷🏼♀️
So as you can see, I am not a perfect mom. No one is, but one thing we all have in common is that we want to do our absolute best. I’m learning every day how to be a better momma than I was yesterday. What are your guys’ “mom fails”? I’d like to hear them in the comments below.
[Also I apologize for the messy bullet points. I have no idea how to get rid of them. So if you know please let me know that down below as well 😉]